Neurodivergent Couples Therapy · UK & Online
Neurodivergent Couples Therapy
Specialist couples therapy for neurodiverse relationships — ADHD, autism and AuDHD partnerships. Helping couples actually hear each other, often for the first time in years.
In-person in Hornchurch, Havering, Essex · Online across the UK · Relate Trained · Free 15-min intro call
You Are Not Alone
Does this sound like your relationship?
Neurodiverse relationships have unique strengths — and unique challenges. These patterns are common, and they are not signs that the relationship is broken.
Areas of Focus
What I help with
Communication Differences
Understanding how ADHD and autistic communication styles interact — and developing new ways of hearing each other that actually work.
Conflict & Repair
Breaking the cycle of escalation and withdrawal, and building the capacity to repair after conflict without lasting damage.
Emotional Regulation
Working with the emotional intensity that often characterises neurodiverse relationships — rejection sensitivity, overwhelm, shutdown.
Intimacy & Connection
Rebuilding closeness when sensory differences, executive functioning challenges or burnout have created distance.
Roles & Responsibilities
Addressing the imbalance that often develops when one partner's neurodivergence affects their capacity to contribute equally — without blame.
Understanding Each Other's Brain
Psychoeducation about ADHD and autism — helping both partners understand the neurological basis of behaviours that feel personal.
Client Experiences
What couples say
"My partner and I were at a real crossroads. We had tried talking to each other and it just kept going in circles. Maria helped us actually hear each other for the first time in years. The difference in our relationship is remarkable."
J. & T.
Couples counselling
"We came to Maria as a neurodiverse couple — I'm autistic and my partner has ADHD — and she understood our dynamic immediately. She never made either of us feel like the problem. We have learned so much about how to support each other."
M. & F.
Couples counselling, neurodiverse relationship
Common Questions
Couples therapy FAQs
What is a neurodiverse relationship?
A neurodiverse relationship is one where one or both partners are neurodivergent — for example, one partner has ADHD and the other is neurotypical, or both partners are autistic, or one has AuDHD. These relationships have unique strengths and unique challenges, particularly around communication, sensory needs, and emotional regulation.
How does ADHD affect relationships?
ADHD can affect relationships in many ways — forgetfulness, emotional dysregulation, difficulty with follow-through, hyperfocus on new things and then withdrawal, and rejection sensitivity. Partners often feel unheard, unimportant or like they are carrying an unfair load. Therapy helps both partners understand the ADHD dynamic and develop new ways of communicating and connecting.
Does both partners need to be neurodivergent for couples therapy?
No. Many couples come to therapy where only one partner is neurodivergent. Maria works with all relationship configurations — neurotypical/ADHD, neurotypical/autistic, ADHD/autistic, and both partners neurodivergent.
What is the difference between couples therapy and relationship counselling?
The terms are often used interchangeably. Both involve working with two partners together to improve communication, resolve conflict and strengthen connection. Maria is Relate-trained, which is the UK's leading specialist couples therapy training.
Do you offer online couples therapy?
Yes — couples therapy is available online via Zoom, as well as in-person in Hornchurch, Havering, Essex. Online couples therapy is equally effective and often more convenient, particularly for couples where one or both partners have sensory or scheduling challenges.
What if we are considering separation?
Couples therapy is not only for couples who want to stay together. Some couples use therapy to separate more consciously and kindly — particularly when children are involved. Maria works with couples at all stages, including those who are uncertain about the future of their relationship.
Take the First Step
Ready to begin?
Start with a free 15-minute introductory call — no commitment, no pressure. Just a conversation to see if we're the right fit for your relationship.